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Tuesday, May 31, 2005
What's in a Name?
Why is it that when girls fall in love they start doodling their possible new name (their current first name with boyfriend's last name) all over the place? Are they practicing signing their new name to see how it looks? Are they making sure it sounds ok? What happens if it doesn't look or sound ok?
I've never really been one of those doodling girls. I think in more practical terms, like visualizing what will actually happen in the future - like moving in together, buying a house and having babies, not the little details like the name change.
That's how I've always thought about it - up until now that is - it's a little detail, changing your name is. Something that has to be taken care of, like filling out the paper work and crossing an item off the to do list.
Now that I'm actually engaged, I'm not seeing this as such a minor detail. I'm very attached to my last name. I like the way my name sounds, Kristin Bertsch. I've had this name for 28 years and it's a link to my father. People call me things like "Bertsch-tree", "Bertsch Butt" and my favorite latest nickname bestowed upon me by best friend and fiance - look I said fiance not boyfriend, "KB".
Bret's last name is Heenan. I don't mind it, actually I've always liked it when I say his name - Bret Heenan. But, that's his last name, not mine. Kristin Heenan. Too many n's in a row. I really don't have anything against the name "Heenan", I just don't think it sounds good with "Kristin". Maybe I should change my first name too. KB Heenan. Christine Heenan sounds a little better. I might as well just change both names while I'm at it. Who invented this name change business anyway? Why even bother to try and name your little girl a name that fits with your last name because it will just change later in life anyway?
I've thought about just keeping my name since I seem to be so attached to it. But, I do rather like the idea of having the same last name as my husband and children. "The Heenan Family", not "The Heenan Family and Bertsch".
This web site lists all the options available. I'm bummed Bret doesn't like "Bret Bertsch". C'mon, what's wrong with that?
Well, what am I worrying about anyhow, it's still a year away. I'll come back to this later - I'm a bride - I have a huge list of things I can worry about instead.
Why is it that when girls fall in love they start doodling their possible new name (their current first name with boyfriend's last name) all over the place? Are they practicing signing their new name to see how it looks? Are they making sure it sounds ok? What happens if it doesn't look or sound ok?
I've never really been one of those doodling girls. I think in more practical terms, like visualizing what will actually happen in the future - like moving in together, buying a house and having babies, not the little details like the name change.
That's how I've always thought about it - up until now that is - it's a little detail, changing your name is. Something that has to be taken care of, like filling out the paper work and crossing an item off the to do list.
Now that I'm actually engaged, I'm not seeing this as such a minor detail. I'm very attached to my last name. I like the way my name sounds, Kristin Bertsch. I've had this name for 28 years and it's a link to my father. People call me things like "Bertsch-tree", "Bertsch Butt" and my favorite latest nickname bestowed upon me by best friend and fiance - look I said fiance not boyfriend, "KB".
Bret's last name is Heenan. I don't mind it, actually I've always liked it when I say his name - Bret Heenan. But, that's his last name, not mine. Kristin Heenan. Too many n's in a row. I really don't have anything against the name "Heenan", I just don't think it sounds good with "Kristin". Maybe I should change my first name too. KB Heenan. Christine Heenan sounds a little better. I might as well just change both names while I'm at it. Who invented this name change business anyway? Why even bother to try and name your little girl a name that fits with your last name because it will just change later in life anyway?
I've thought about just keeping my name since I seem to be so attached to it. But, I do rather like the idea of having the same last name as my husband and children. "The Heenan Family", not "The Heenan Family and Bertsch".
This web site lists all the options available. I'm bummed Bret doesn't like "Bret Bertsch". C'mon, what's wrong with that?
Well, what am I worrying about anyhow, it's still a year away. I'll come back to this later - I'm a bride - I have a huge list of things I can worry about instead.
Monday, May 09, 2005
Siamese Cat Pool
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Originally uploaded by jojof.
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Originally uploaded by jojof.
My new favorite pastime is looking through the adorable kitties in the Siamese Cat Pool on Flickr.
Thursday, May 05, 2005
All We Have by Brett Dennen
A Little Concert
Originally uploaded by Vision Aerie.
A Little Concert
Originally uploaded by Vision Aerie.
One of my favorite songs by Brett Dennen is "All We Have". Listen to it now.
The main chorus goes:
All that we have is hope and love
So don't you worry child, don't you worry about a thing
in the night
but those can lift us up
so we can rise above
so we can rise above the madness...
Things that help me through the night
It's been a tough week.
I've finally decided to start "telling it with the bark on" here on my little blog. I'm a little nervous about doing this because I've tried to tell mostly positive and funny things up until now and have tried not to write too many personal tales. The thing is, I want to write more, and I think one of the ways that might happen is to start telling more about things going on with my personal journey.
It's tough to take the leap, so I'll be taking some baby steps. I'm going to start with writing things that help me through the difficut times.
My wonderful fiance. I sent him an Apple icard today telling him how much I appreciate his unending understanding, love, and support. This man is so supportive of me and really listens to what is going on with compassion and respect. He is truly amazing. I can't wait to be married to him.
After a rough phone call this afternoon, I was feeling pretty upset. Thankfully, my best friend/neighbor Mar Mar Superstar was just a phone call away. She knows how to cheer me up and make me laugh (after lending an ear). She came right over and we promptly popped in a Sex and the City DVD. Before I knew it we were making fun of Carrie's outfits and cracking up as Miranada tried on Samantha's fake titties to attract men.
Then we went to the gym.
This is where I noticed the amazing transition within myself. Before the gym I was feeling sad, distrought, confused and troubled. I had just taken a big step in standing up for myself and my feelings - this was the tough phone call. Unfortunately, the other party involved in this situation is feeling hurt and upset with me because of my decisions. It is hurting me to make these steps, but part of my process right now is to put my feelings first, even though this is upsetting others.
While running on the treadmill, my feelings of sadness and self-doubt were replaced with confidence and empowerment. The more I ran, the more power and self respect I felt. I was suddenly proud of myself and confident in my new steps. It was amazing.
The final thing that is helping me tonight is listening to Brett Dennen. He played at Live Oak last year and I fell in love with his voice, lyrics, guitar playing - everything. Check him out! Fiance and I are going to go see him this weekend in Big Sur. I can't wait.
It's been a tough week.
I've finally decided to start "telling it with the bark on" here on my little blog. I'm a little nervous about doing this because I've tried to tell mostly positive and funny things up until now and have tried not to write too many personal tales. The thing is, I want to write more, and I think one of the ways that might happen is to start telling more about things going on with my personal journey.
It's tough to take the leap, so I'll be taking some baby steps. I'm going to start with writing things that help me through the difficut times.
My wonderful fiance. I sent him an Apple icard today telling him how much I appreciate his unending understanding, love, and support. This man is so supportive of me and really listens to what is going on with compassion and respect. He is truly amazing. I can't wait to be married to him.
After a rough phone call this afternoon, I was feeling pretty upset. Thankfully, my best friend/neighbor Mar Mar Superstar was just a phone call away. She knows how to cheer me up and make me laugh (after lending an ear). She came right over and we promptly popped in a Sex and the City DVD. Before I knew it we were making fun of Carrie's outfits and cracking up as Miranada tried on Samantha's fake titties to attract men.
Then we went to the gym.
This is where I noticed the amazing transition within myself. Before the gym I was feeling sad, distrought, confused and troubled. I had just taken a big step in standing up for myself and my feelings - this was the tough phone call. Unfortunately, the other party involved in this situation is feeling hurt and upset with me because of my decisions. It is hurting me to make these steps, but part of my process right now is to put my feelings first, even though this is upsetting others.
While running on the treadmill, my feelings of sadness and self-doubt were replaced with confidence and empowerment. The more I ran, the more power and self respect I felt. I was suddenly proud of myself and confident in my new steps. It was amazing.
The final thing that is helping me tonight is listening to Brett Dennen. He played at Live Oak last year and I fell in love with his voice, lyrics, guitar playing - everything. Check him out! Fiance and I are going to go see him this weekend in Big Sur. I can't wait.
